As a single professional woman who worked her way thru education and never had a penny handed to her, a man with poor decision making skills who chose someone to stay home and become vested in a pension plan from him is not attractive. I really do, insofar as that is possible in this vale of tears -- a cherished family, a grandchild, church, career, sobriety, two dogs, daily hikes, naps, perfect friends. Be friends with them , treat with some kindness. I have spent time with women from their 40s through mid 50s. Now that I want someone to take care of who will take care of me as well, I have to face the fact it will probably never happen. I also have never been married, have no children and have not been in and out of relationships my entire adult life.
You need to get out there and meet them in real life. God is such a show-off, and I never give up on my dreams. Why should I fight for basic rights that I have as a single person? I eat reasonably well and try to remain active although retired. It is difficult for middle-aged men and women to meet new people. Most seemed pretty normal, with college degrees, which I don't have, but certainly meant to; some attractive, mostly divorced but some like me, never married, some witty, some dull, sort of like real life. She wanted a Conscious Uncoupling deal….
We must have faith that God is going to enable us and help us in our journey whether dating or pursuing a lifelong career dream. From an evolutionary standpoint, the dating double standard makes sense. At nearly 50, good luck with that one. It would stop confusing the room or landscape, as you might call it. When I hit age 40, I was divorced and re-entering the dating scene. I have a relative who drove me nuts with that when she was in her mid-50s. Women love dancing and you'll have fun.
I dated women my junior when I was younger because women my age were dating older men most of my female peers from my youth married older men. If you have baggage, accept others with similar baggage, you are matched. I thought my 40s were a juicy decade. And the children that I have are very young. You are just as important as the husband. Surely my friends would set me up with their single friends, and besides, I am out in the public a lot doing events at bookstores and political gatherings, the ideal breeding ground for my type of guy.
Well, of course, I went. And also, the only women interested in me right now seem to be 22-28-year-olds for some reason. I was never married, have no kids, saved my money, own my home, and still in decent shape despite illness. I may have done the most heroic thing of all. I have everything I need in my group of fun married and single friends that just accept me as I am. One day last fall I told him that it felt more like a friendship. I just have to change from the hopeless romantic type.
Dating is how people get to meet each other and decide if they like each other enough to take it to another level — a committed relationship. The affection may be nice but the imagined potential adult diapers are not. The rest and my ex-hub were good people and we just wanted different things. They seem to forget, Mommy can always tell. Yes, men do go through a male equivalent of menopause. We both have 2 kids the same ages 19, 16. Yet I feel no strong desire to intemately connect romantically.
. What I have witnessed around the break shack table during lunch breaks and while traveling for work. Dating in middle age presents many of the same challenges as dating at any age: Where do you find someone to date? I almost got married after a 6+ year relationship but broke off the wedding about 4 months prior. But Kate Garraway has some advice on how to make the most of the experience. So, I made a conscious decision to be responsible for my own happiness.
I am 62, in great shape, and only date women at least 10 years younger. Who needs it or them? Because these are men who are more self-aware, more interesting, more multifaceted, more experienced and more intriguing. I guess the desired age range would be 30 -50. The scale bar is 0. Some have been abused emotionally and physically.
In ninth-grade geometry I learned about inductive and deductive reasoning, and the lesson has stuck with me. Yet I found there are more players than real sincere ones. My advice is to get involved with things you enjoy-church, golf, fishing, music, model trains-whatever. I realize no woman is likely to pursue me and be able to pass my tests. Journal of Women and Aging, 23, 263-275.