Until you are feeling more fleshed out, resist the urge to get involved in sketchy relationships with older men when you have little experience. It's not likely that the most important thing for him is the physical side of the relationship. But meeting someone over the Internet will be a little different than meeting someone in person. It's a lot safer for you to do that with someone around your own age or a little bit older, who has a similar amount of experience as you. You're 30, and you're pursuing a 16 year old boy.
What were the circumstances under which you met online? Eating a hamburger in your local hamburger joint is innocuous enough chances of compromising your closeted state are low. I'm scared that if we meet he will change his mind and reject me, I think he is way out of my league - I told him this and he said no and that I'm very good looking. If he's considering meeting and dating a 16 year old guy, he's bad news dude. Maybe the above is just an old fart letting his fears run wild. Learned how to write love poetry in French.
A couple years latter, I went to the gay bar for the first time, and who walked in the door but my karate instructor and his lover. You're forbidden fruit, even if you're at the age of consent. Seriously, content yourself with looking for people nearby you. You should work on yourself for a while. For young people to really click on a emotional level with old people like me, is a lot harder. The age and experience gap is a red flag against him. He deserves to be skinned alive and God Himself would call it justice! You don't know what I'm going through because you can't relate.
At least meet people, make friends with them, and who knows? Now you might do all of this and still not have a boyfriend right away. And i have no problem being harsh or an ass about it. It's just too soon for you to make that leap, especially as someone who is still closeted and doesn't know how to work his way around these things yet. But something's not right with him. He had taught me a lesson in adult responsibility and honor.
I would be very wary. This is a self-moderating sub. What you are calling love is just sex. In the end, they are the ones responsible for you, and they are the ones that, if shit happens, will be there no matter what. But there are some tips that can help the relationship-minded teen get his guy. You're eager to feel wanted and to belong to someone, and to find a way out of this lonely place you're in. Don't Rush It Most people spend some time dating and getting to know a potential partner before they decide to move into boyfriend mode.
How could he hang out with your friends? Everyone goes through the same stages in their lives and that's absolutely valid. Message some of the guys from here and see if they have a Facebook group or something. Did he know off the bat you were 16 years of age? Plus, being out shows a certain level of confidence and confidence is really attractive to a lot of people. I know you're lonely and you like him. Even so, the chance that you could ever work out in a relationship are overwhelmingly slim. Still, it is best if you can focus more on yourself as stated above.
But the wisest thing you can do is not jump into something you'll end up regretting. Who knows, maybe he is a genuine and good guy. And even if there isn't sometimes you just have to deal with it. Attractiveness in a mate is subjective. Also talk about the age thing. I'm 16 and live in South Louisiana.
The gap in age we are talking about wouldn't matter at all in another ten years, but at this point in your life you have to wonder what in the world he is doing with someone so young and inexperienced. An awesome thing about all this? Think of it as a smaller age gap, would you date someone 3 years younger than you? The internet seems to be the only avenue to find other gay people. Person A spent teenage years learning all kinds of amazing things. Or join a soccer team or the film club. You sound like a typical teenage boy with teenage boy problems and anxieties, which is absolutely fine, mind you. He might just have a thing for young guys or he's really emotionally immature.