For 33 years, I've been happily married to a man with whom I violently disagree on every conceivable political issue, including abortion, gun control and assisted suicide. I like to talk about politics sometimes but I don't like having pointless arguments with someone I will never see eye to eye with. But general I find conservative views to be very against my ethics and lifestyle. Red lipstick, red heels, red dresses, you name it, we probably have it in red. He seems tolerant of my ignorance, though, and we eventually make it out for coffee. I will, however, shocking as it may be, become emotionally invested in the World Cup every four years, because in addition to being a feminist, I am also a global citizen.
I feel like we work very well together, but she does have different beliefs. In reality, there will always be conflict in a relationship, whether it's cultural, political, spiritual or about washing the dishes. In fourth grade, I painted signs for a rally to meet presidential candidate Bill Clinton. Christ offers that kind of unity. He asks to see me again that night, and we quickly find ourselves capital-T Together. Our temperaments are both similar and complementary, and we enjoy a rare degree of mutual appreciation, lack of envy and boundless delight in each other's company. I still identify as a Liberal though.
Choose between 1, 2, 3 or 4 columns, set the background color, widget divider color, activate transparency, a top border or fully disable it on desktop and mobile. We assume the best of each other. Thank you for not demonizing me for my beliefs, for not questioning my intelligence, for extending grace to me when I am wrong, and for believing that we both want what is best for our country even if we disagree on the best way to accomplish it. This is another way to respect yourself! Our date was pleasant, but I'm not heartbroken. Try to see them as God sees them—as his beloved children whom he loves just as much as he loves you. His love, joy, mercy, creativity, and mystery are beyond our comprehension.
You need to be with someone who is sweet and who appreciates you. Likewise, try to assume the best of those who may have voted differently than you. In contrast, you cannot live together very well without love and respect. He is bigger than this tiny slice of history and bigger than our partisan differences. I've gone on a couple first dates and noped right out of there when I discovered he was homophobic or had antiquated ideas about women. Likewise, give your conversation partner room to run.
True, we will never watch on Friday nights or celebrate the anniversary of the Occupy Wall Street movement together. I'm not even trying to be funny, I'm genuinely concerned for you. Keep politics out of your conversations. If you are in debt, make a plan for. I think of the odds Hatemi laid out. In being so closed-off, I was preventing myself from finding something that mattered to me more than politics:. How will you feel, and behave, at parties given by her friends, or over dinner with a couple of them? The first three are guaranteed to fail.
Must political discussions simply be avoided at all costs? Wait your turn to talk. Is that girl blind or what? If you strongly differ in your views on a topic one or both of you are very emotional about abortion, gay marriage , however, you might want to avoid bringing it up too often. Then I wonder why I'm mulling over statistics on our first date. What you have to realize about most self-proclaimed liberals is that they're all basically moderate conservatives who identify themselves as liberal because A they're pro-choice and B they're too willing to take the liberal media at face value. If 100% of candidates agree on something, it's a non-issue for that election and therefore you can't vote for or against it. As Christians, our first priority is not to convert others to our political beliefs but rather to bear witness to the unifying love of Christ.
Then again, if they can't get over that fact or if they're actually the real deal liberal, then it would never ever work. But during those 40 years you would have also raised your children together and had four decades of shared experiences. Honestly, I'm so far left that I freak out some Democrats; I think capitalism is bullshit, and I wish Bernie Sanders were my grandfather. We have an opportunity in our relationships with one another to model the unity that only his love can bring. Personally, I like the fact that I can send a letter to a friend in Alaska for 46 cents essentially, a government subsidy - impossible with free market mailing system.
In the hope that our political differences within the church can make us all better followers of Christ, I offer this love letter to my husband as a model of the type of mutually beneficial and loving relationship we can share with those on both sides of the political spectrum. Liberal antipathy isn't much better: 38 percent of Democrats share that disgust, up from 16 percent. He is an unashamed liberal Democrat. Then I stumble upon the holy grail. Despite the media forcing liberals and conservatives into separate boxes, these two groups often respect, befriend, and date one another. I could be yours forever.
That adds up to a lot of intimacy. The problem most people have is that they're usually too deeply invested in their positions and tend to, even inadvertently, be condescending and patronizing. That would be one cringe-worthy experience for most. If they're really your friends, they won't try to make you change. I think she's almost right. Regardless, it truly breaks my heart to see someone talk about women-- a group of people that I belong to-- as if they're not even human. We don't talk politics that morning.