Bless you for your tenacity in dealing with your addiction. Do not be ashamed of the fact that as a woman you want to have sex. I tried, but it was a complete disaster. Obviously as Christians we ought to coming to the Lord daily in prayer, to both offer our thanks to him as well as our petitions. They are right — there is not a specific passage that says a wife must keep herself beautiful for her husband. It isnt going to bring back his youth.
Not that I was abusive- I clearly was not. The part your husband says about needing to reconnect in other areas first is exactly how I feel. To make a long story short,,,the affair is over,,,we are in therapy and he is the one on the fence about staying. Yet, they are constantly refused, or cheated on. If you believe your husband is sexually denying you after reading this post I suggest you read my post. His work life may be overwhelming. I have tried everything, from leaving him be, to caring for him emotionally, and the obvious to no avail.
Sometimes in passing, I try to keep it light and loving. Take a look at the posts in , and see if anything rings a bell. Every time we had sex I would feel inadequate and ashamed. I even suggested to watch porn with him. I tried the version for guys of: be more loving, do more housework, help out with the kids more, without any success. Remind yourself that his lack of desire might not be personal, but a defense against loss of. It is just that we as people just have to be willing to be accountable for how we contributed to the issue.
We have sex once a month or even once in 2 months. I know how devastating it is. We both really love each other and everything else in our relationship is fine. He shows me no intimacy and once in a blue moon like a year ago he does. However, the fact that there's no sex has seriously damaged my feelings for him. I feel unattractive and have no self confidence left. Many men come into a relationship with a porn addiction so how is that a partners fault? Yet I wanna go have sex like crazy with both genders just for the hell of it.
Again, where is this unreal expectation coming from? Now you can finally breathe! He is both professional and ethical. The damage from porn is much more than making women feel unattractive, undesired, and insufficient. It really does feel like grieving. Sometimes when I bring up the subject, he pushes me away or gets sarcastic. And here we have a winner! Everything you say is so true,,,I really needed you sent my way! It can open doors to worse things and eventually destroy that marriage. I immediately panicked and thought of our job there; the thought of what was going to be said and the fact we live in a small town which he was not from nor aware of the costs of this action should the guy say anything. She has all … Read more » I am about to marry my fiancé in two months.
However, that stereotype does not hold as much as you might think. Totally different hormone system s and pathways etc. I already married you, so please act on my previously granted consent! Seventh: It has also been my experience that many women, especially well brought up, upstanding women are usually dull as dishwater in the bedroom department. And having someone that respects you enough to care about your needs is vital to anyone's happiness. You had years of pregnancies, raising kids and getting them off to school.
I tried everything under the sun. I am no longer convinced that this was wisdom…. I know, easier said than done. I always approach the situation with love. It sounds like you both have a lot of work to do. A year later things are better. Help me,,,I need to be given love and sex,,,has anyone been through this? The high level of Jon's expertise is supported by the positive responses and progress I see in his clients.
Your new relationship may only last 10 years but that is 10 years more than in your current siuation. She felt like it was something about herself that was the issue. So please do not get the two confused. I talk more about in this post. You too easily dismissed constant rejection. Unless your penis is 2 feet long you cannot hurt your child! Pray for my husband and I brothers and sisters in Christ. In terms of threatening his quality of life … It will look different depending on your individual situation.
Agreed - he should be the one needing reassurance from you. These are the years that you would think would be the best! Right now I am tring to face the fact that my husband is not attracted to me anymore. I might get hurt or leave him. Thankfully it looks like antidepressants are helping slightly with that. For some men their sex drive is so strong — that they will still have sex with a critical woman just to get the physical release they need, but for others with weaker libidos they will redirect their sexual energy into other areas. My husband has always had a lower sex drive than I have. I can not be used anymore that way.
So that they can feel more comfortable about seeking help, and more people will be willing to help them. He was very sexually active before we met, but I was and did wait for marriage, so he had to slow down a bit. I highly recommend his clinical work. I am trying so hard to make this marriage work, to take what is good about us and make it enough. You are obviously not one of the guys the article is discussing. It doesn't matter what I do. You can try cooking, knitting, walking groups, etc.