Hi my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and we live in a small room together behind his parents house. As the year went on a few bumps in the road I thought maybe he is just not interested in me and pushing me away. He ignored me twice so then i stopped texting for 2+ weeks then reached out again and we texted for over an hour. I would let his words and actions guide you as far as how much time and attention he wants and you should provide. Thanks for reading and commenting.
I did all kinds of things to keep him close. This is what I wanted to discuss with him. Sorry this was so long winded. In the mean time I just don't have time for small talk via text. I just knew that he is an introvert after he ended our relationship. At space2live you should feel right at home.
A few days later we had a conversation about our differences one that he encouraged me to share. But he will suddenly have these shifts in mood and seems to withdraw. That is my two cents. As a side, when introverts get angry and yell, is it usually a lucid argument or do they do they say things on the spur of the moment? The past is exactly what it is: the past. When he is done, assure him that you completely understand his need for alone time and would do your best to give him that.
When you really want to settle a conflict, adopt a patient behavior. Introverts love meaningful deep communication. We would see each other 3-4 times a week and became official I think in like March. I believe certain types of introverts the intuitive feelers are more sensitive to conflict and emotions therefore that may be an underlying reason for their aloofness. I would let him have this time and try to focus on yourself instead. The relationship is totally draining. You both like freedom and doing things in your own way.
He needs a back and forth rhythm of space and connection. As we hung out again, mostly just two of us, sometimes with his friends and family, we agreed that we could be best friends and count on each other for life. Remember how I said that it is much easier to when you already have love in your life? Due to him being busy He says everythings still good between us but intentionally wont talk to me even when hes not bust. These forums have saved me from a lot of freak outs and misunderstandings. There is, however, a huge section of women in society who crave constant attention, need reassurance all the time, and have so much insecurity inside them that they need to be in constant contact with their boyfriends. My Father, God rest his Soul, was an Introvert.
During stressful times, they project a reassuring, calm confidence. But then he goes and hangs out with his friends instead…. She told me that she only has about three close friends that she hangs out with and sometimes she will withdraw from all of her friends and just be alone for a week or more, even with her best friend. I need the cliff notes version: I often ponder if he is just as confused but he rarely seems to convey that. The attention onnce your return until that time comes agin where you need space and then the cycle starts all over again. I want her to understand that while her feelings are genuine, I need a bit more time to be in sync with her. At least you know not to take it personally.
Also, if you need a question answered that would help you trust them, voice it, and then give them time to answer questions. During the time he was gone, I had been reading about introvert-extrovert relationships and had a better understanding about how each of us functioned and our needs. When you accept the hidden treasure in your introverted boyfriend, you can maximize the connection by boosting his natural strengths. He tried to avoid answering my question about hanging up and started to try to small talk with me. This, in turn, threw me into a frenzy of contacting him. Trust can be difficult in these situations for an extrovert because they're so used to having so much attention all of the time.
And I feel like he is hiding something from me. I actually cut it exactly where I see the problem. I dated a guy 5 years ago and everything was fine for 2years till distance separated us and communication between us came at a standstill. I want to find all the info I can to give him to make his life easier. I hope this helps and I wish you all the best. We hardly ever fought at all and I respected his space and i trusted him.
I feel best when my sweet introvert boyfriend is loving, affectionate, and talkative. However, as soon as we were back, we went straight back to the old pattern of not seeing each other much and of text messages not being answered. He saw me two days ago, on easter and he made everything seem so normal and we were intimate. She has told me about previous boyfriends that she has dumped because they got too needy, and I fear that my personality is giving this impression. And it also caught my attention coz his name is Michael too. They are just as valid as his.