I dont think its a big deal about the porn. The great thing about my boyfriend is that he's also had bad relationships in the past so he understands my need to protect myself. Anyway he says that from now on he gives me an access to his phone, Facebook, and computer. In the phone records I looked through the past couple months and the only thing I saw was a few text messages to a girl friend of his that were sent last week. Their demeanor changes when you question them. Remember you have to change too. There is nothing worse than a liar and a cheater.
Don't want mom or dad to ground us for this and that, so we lie or hide things. When it comes to our closest relationships, most of us like to believe we know everything about the ones we love. Guys do crazy things when under the influence of love. Get yourself a good job when you are able and protect your assets. You need to understand something - the tighter the grip you try to have, the more someone will squirm to get out of it.
Most of the time, hiding things is learned in childhood. They have a new best friend. I suggest you wait until you cool off before you bring it up. Sure, those late nights might be his decision, but they definitely affect you too. My bf knows I'm very sensitive About these kind of things and I called him crying and said I never want to see him again. I am curious as to why men hide things wether it be money or anything, in a marriage aren't you supposed to hide nothing? Espiecally if he knows you know but you stay with him anyway, he is getting away with doing whatever he wants ,and maybe more. This is what you should do if there is no other way to make him openly communicate.
But he has one flaw that I consider quite big. When you plan to spend the rest of your life with your partner, your next thought should never be thinking of how to spend less time with them. There are so many ways to hide things in this world, even by simply deleting a text so, poof, it's gone forever. For instance, a best friend's undisclosed struggle to conceive is not on par with a husband's affair. But the funny thing is that guys will still hold onto their old porn discs as if they were rare collectors editions of Led Zeppelin albums — or gold doubloons. Body language is something that is super natural and it can explain a lot about moods, personalities, and feelings.
Problem is, he hides things from me. Sorry for the long post. And it's not like he could forget during damn 5 days of using that phone. He avoids eye contact A lot of people find it really hard to maintain a steady eye contact while telling a lie. So I don't reveal some things and muster my response to whatever criticisms they throw at me.
I suggest you wait until you cool off before you bring it up. I feel so stupid and niave to think it could stay that way. It tells you sweet F all. Don't give him the 3rd degree on everything. No one in this world deserves to feel self-conscious about themselves or even their relationship. We use each others phone pretty regularly.
Sorry, but I wouldn't want to eventually marry a man who can't even respect how I feel about a thot. For the last few months I have done minimal snooping because I've come to trust him totally and completely. We have one child and another on the way. I hide how many cokes I drink during the day, and what I time I actually ventured into the office. We all need to keep a few things under wraps and hidden. . So, as much as possible your guy would prefer to simply change the topic instead of running the risk of telling a lie.
I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years. Actually I can understand where he's coming from on that. You figure that, hey, that's how you're going to prove that your tale is actually real. Re gambling: I worked in The Star casino recently and always chasing that previous win can become addictive, so yes, wise to keep an eye on that particular psychological crutch. Mostly because throwing out porn feels like a horrible betrayal.